Life is too short. Instead of accumulating material stuff, start creating memories.
When we die we don’t sit up in the afterlife and say, ‘Hey, I loved my iPhone.’
We sit up in the afterlife and remember how wonderful our life was and how much we were loved.
Create memories, as at the end of the day you can’t take a suitcase full of stuff with you.
I have started creating memories and tell my family how much I love them every single day.
For those who have lost a loved one, they will be very familiar with Grieving.
Grieving is exhausting, energy zapping and sometimes overwhelming.
Grieving is very personal, physically and emotionally. We all grieve differently and at different stages.
For me it comes in waves. One minute I will be fine and the next minute I have a wave of sadness, start to cry and then it is over in a few seconds. I cannot control it, just like waves, these emotions hit me out of the blue.
I also have days where I feel extremely exhausted and my heart starts to hurt. I can feel very flat, sad and cry at the drop of a hat and ask a lot of questions like, why did you have to leave me so soon?
Sometimes this feeling for me is very short and sometimes it hangs around for a few days.
Physically I get a migraine that won’t let up and feel very tired and couldn’t be bothered doing anything. Motivation is non existent.
My personal experience is to just let it happen and go with the flow, as I cannot control it.
We all grieve, its natural and human and I just let it be.
At a recent function, a person that I had just met came up to me and suggested that they could help me with my emotional grief. I advised them that I was fine and didn’t require any treatment or assistance.
We were offered counselling after my husband Paul’s death, but I didn’t take it up. I grieved with Paul as we went on his final journey.
I see my grief now as being human, it is part of my uniqueness. It is OK for each of us to be sad & cry, it is apart of life. I feel as though if I don’t feel any emotion then I would be seeking help.
Every single one of us is different and manages grief in different ways, at different stages and different times.
There are many of us in specialist fields that know they can help others, but it might be a good idea to step back first and ask the person if they are doing well and if there is anything that you could help them with?
We all mean well but sometimes its getting the message across in a compassionate and empathetic manner without being insensitive.
My business, speaking engagements and workshops are very personal and emotional and if I am not genuine or unique, how can I help others?