Category: Words of Wisdom

 

When Paul was given the news he had months to live, after the devastating news and the reality set in, he started planning.

He also started discussing death and what happens after you die.

Weeks leading up to his death he said “I wonder what happens after you die and what if there is nothing there.” I replied, Darling, and what if there is, how wonderful would that be.  I would be able to talk to you and you could come and haunt me!

Since his death we continue to have conversations, so no doubt I must have been right (Paul would laugh at this, as he said I thought I was always right).

It is the believing that there is something there that makes it more magical and less daunting.

We continue to be connected energetically.  I hear him talk to me in thought form and I can feel him around me.  He has a beautiful loving energy that is very soft.

I believe, do you?

 

My Husband Paul was diagnosed terminally ill with a rare aggressive melanoma with months to live in January 2016.

So how does someone fit and healthy end up terminally ill at 60 years of age?

The answer is I don’t know.  Who knows when there number is up?  We wander through life not thinking anything major will happen to us and then bang, your life is turned upside down. What you thought was a normal life can change within a matter of seconds.

We don’t go through life thinking when we will get sick or have cancer or even die.  We are too busy living, raising families, working to even think the worst.

And even when you know you are terminal and going through the journey you still have a false sense of security until the very end.  You often wish for hope thinking that there will be a cure or you will live on, survive but is not the case.

When it is time to go, then it’s time.

Death is final.

How do we know when we have met the right person?

For me when I met Paul it was instant attraction.  Over the years as our love grew we became closer to the point that we became one.

We were very good mates, friends from the beginning and just continued to grow from there.

I felt at ease and could tell him anything and everything and we talked to each other to all hours, night and day.  The connection between the two of us was electric and we couldn’t get any closer, Paul was my soul mate.

Over the years we found strength, tenderness and compassion in equal measures more recently, deepening our admiration and respect for each other.

Some inside thoughts are:

• When you find the right partner / soul mate hold on and enjoy the ride
• Don’t sweat the small stuff
• Tell each other you love them every day
• Spend quality time together date night each week

We were fortunate enough to film Paul before his untimely death and he offered some words of wisdom about life.

He was asked was there any words of wisdom.  Paul’s response was, well you got to live life to the fullest and be caring.  Sometimes it is better off to bite your tongue and count to 10 and breathe before diving in and having an argument.  Don’t have to argue but compromise and care about what the other person wants.  Think what you are going to say before you say it. Take a step backwards and think about it rather than having a blue over the issue.

He was asked if he had enjoyed his life so far.  Paul’s response was that he was lucky, he had a good family and Michelle (wife) was an excellent part of his life & was spectacular.

He was asked about any highlights.  Paul responded by saying that having his kids and when they were born and arrived healthy.  Getting to marry Michelle (wife) and having a relationship is spectacular and was lucky as a lot of people don’t get to experience a relationship like that.

He was asked if he would change anything.  Paul responded by saying, that there is always something that you would change but only some of the massive disasters, but in some way if you didn’t end up in that disaster you wouldn’t have experienced certain things in which perhaps you had to go through in life.

Paul was very wise and brave